Baby Fever When You’re Done Having Children

It can happen to any momma at any time, and it will blindside you: baby fever! But if our family is complete, why is it making me feel sad?

It can happen to any momma at any time, and it will blindside you: baby fever! But if our family is complete, why is it making me feel sad?

We were watching a show last night, and the starring couple had an unexpected positive pregnancy test. While they panicked on the screen, I felt something stir deep inside me: that ache you get when you hear about pregnancy tests and new babies. I got hit with baby fever. It slammed into me so hard I almost told Hubs we should race to the bedroom to get started again right then and there. But then I remembered we’re done having children; our family is complete. So why am I sad?

Please don’t hate me, but I’m one of those people that loves almost everything about pregnancy. It took us a while (it felt like forever to me) to get pregnant both times, so that just made the experiences even more special. Do you remember the feeling you get when you finally get that little plus sign after peeing on those awful sticks for months? And then you get to actually grow a tiny human inside your body (or in my case with our last pregnancy – two at once!). You get to hear their heartbeats, feel them kicking, and I have yet to see a woman who couldn’t rock that adorable baby bump. 

Then the babies come out, and they are the most adorable tiny little ones. There’s just something about babies that is so magical. They smell like heaven. That scent is the most addictive crack out there for a mom. One whiff of a new baby’s head can jumpstart any momma’s uterus. Their little coos and brand new giggles are the greatest sound in the world. 

And all those firsts that you get to watch them do! The first smile, and the first giggle. First time they can hold their own head up. First time they roll over. First tooth. Crawling. Walking. Eating solids. First words! It’s those little milestones that mommas thrive on and obsess over.

I feel like my body was put on this earth to grow tiny humans, and now I’m done with that. I won’t be pregnant again. I’m so grateful that I was able to have the experiences that I did. I know some women have yet to (or can’t) carry a baby. My heart hurts just thinking about that. I just miss being pregnant.

It can happen to any momma at any time, and it will blindside you: baby fever! But if our family is complete, why is it making me feel sad?

I do miss having a table wherever I sat down. However, he almost knocked my drink off by kicking it so hard.

I don’t miss the swollen ankles, or barely being able to move around towards the end of the pregnancies. I don’t miss having to wake up my husband in the middle of the night to help me finish rolling over because I got stuck on my back like a turtle (yes, that actually happened, more times than you might think). I don’t miss the heartburn or the back aches. Or labor.

I also don’t miss the midnight, 2 a.m., 4 a.m., and 6 a.m. feedings. I don’t miss the explosive diapers. I don’t miss the formula and the bottles. 

We had a rough start trying to grow our family. We had a miscarriage first, and then it took some time before we had our son. Life was perfect with just the three of us. When we decided we were ready for more, that we wanted one more baby, we got the shock of our lives when we found out it was really TWO babies in there. We decided that our family was complete. 

When I had the twins, the doctor did what she needed to in there to make sure I couldn’t get pregnant again. I don’t regret this decision. Our hands are full, our house is full, and our wallets are empty. Our hearts are bursting beyond capacity. Our family is perfect just the way it is. 

Our oldest will be 4 this summer. His body is getting so tall and lean. His vocabulary is taking leaps and bounds. Every day he astounds me with something new (in a good way, most days). He’s no longer a baby or a toddler. He’s a boy now. I love watching him figure things out. We’ve still got plenty of firsts ahead of us: first day of school, first girlfriend (eek!), and watching him become a man. That’s plenty of excitement right there.

Our girls are a year and a half old. We’re still looking forward to potty training and no diapers. To teaching them new words, and how to use a spoon. And I don’t even want to think about first boyfriends and proms and weddings yet. I might have a panic attack.

So while I’m ridiculously happy watching my children grow up, and I’m excited to find out what’s in store for them in life, I’m just a little sad. I’m a little sad that I’ll never be pregnant again, that I’m done growing tiny humans. It’s really one of life’s greatest experiences, and I miss it a little. 

I never saw this baby fever coming. Our family is perfect and complete, but I still feel that yearning deep inside me. I need to go visit someone with a new baby so I can get a hit of that newborn smell to satisfy this craving. And I’m sure the all-night feedings will snap me out this. I like getting to sleep now!

Plus, it’s like an era of our lives is over. The trying to conceive, the pregnancy, the newborn stages – it’s all done. We’re past that. Now we’re in the homeowners, bigger family car, school researching stage. There’s no doubt about it now – we’re adults. And truth be told, it makes me feel a little old.

So tell me mommas, is your family complete? Do you still get hit with baby fever every once in a while? Tell me below in the comments!

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  1. I never got baby fever until after I had my son. It took me a long time to decide (agree) to have him, and I have completely changed my view on children heh. I can’t say I loved every minute of being pregnant, but I did enjoy it and I had a good pregnancy for the most part (until the GD and swelling started). But those many months of nights with no sleep – well I can’t forget how hard they were and that helps keep the baby fever away for now. But I see how amazing my son is, watch him grow and learn what is around him, and I love it. We do plan on having another, eventually when we’re living under the same roof again, since right now our situation is crazy. I will probably stop at 2, but I guess we’ll just have to see.
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    • Those nights are so hard to forget. And good luck stopping at two! That was our plan, and you see how well that worked out for us. 😉

  2. Ugh I go back and forth on this all the time. I have 2 kids, soon to be 12 and soon to be 6 and I think we are done having children, but are we?!

  3. We are so done! I have a 2yr old and a 4mo old and already miss pregnancy, tho. Feeling that our family is complete is definitely bittersweet, but feels right.

  4. I can so relate to this. I always wanted 3+ kids, but we decided to stop at two for a number of reasons (my health, our lifestyle that involves lots of transatlantic travel, living in Europe where everything is smaller and have 3+ kids is more complicated logistically than in the states). I randomly feel sad about the fact that I won’t carry another child, nurse another infant, or carry another child wrapped close to my chest. I try to remember the years and years of sleepless nights (my kids were awful sleepers) and the perpetual exhaustion as a means of making amends with the idea, but it doesn’t always work. I think will always secretly regret not having more kids, but I also know that stopping at two is probably the best thing for my family so I try to focus on being the best mom I can be to the two children I have.
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    • That is it exactly, Casey! I’m kinda sad about never carrying another baby. I’m glad you could relate to this.

  5. I don’t have any kids yet so I am not sure how this feelings like but I can only imagine.

    xoxo, Jenny
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  6. I don’t have kids but since babies and weddings seem to be everywhere these days, I sometimes get the fever too! Keep reminding myself that I’m not ready just yet – there’s still so much traveling I want to do before kids!
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  7. Yes! I totally get it. We are also done, but I always wanted a girl, so I’m a little sad I won’t. I also didn’t have a great pregnancy the second time, so I wish I had one more to actually enjoy. However, our house is full, healthy, and happy. I just get that itch every once in a while…
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    • Yes! Happy and healthy is all that matters, but it really is just an occasional itch. Then we have one of those days where no one’s happy, and that itch is gone! 🙂

  8. I thought that i would be done having babies after I gave birth to my first (and currently, only). However, I now know that I was sadly mistaken, because I absolutely NEED another one. Baby fever is real and Nyquil does not help 😉

  9. I don’t have any children, not sure if I want them. However I enjoyed reading your post because it’s so honest and authentic. I like that you feel like you’re family is complete. Hopefully, each time the baby fever comes your way you’ll be able to get your fix somewhere (of course with friends or family) and you’ll feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Wait, was that weird??
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  10. After we had our 2 boys, we decided that if our next was a girl, it would probably be our last. Suprise, suprise we got TWIN GIRLS! So, my husband says we are done. Now the kids are 7, 5 and 3 and I am overwhelmed so much that I have no idea why I am getting baby fever so much lately. My twin pregnancy was rough and the baby faze with them was such a blur that I feel like I didn’t get to enjoy it like I did with my others. That’s probably why I feel that yearning so much. But 5 kids…how insane would that be! And what if we were to get twins again…

    • Another twin momma!!! See, the same thing happened to you! “Let’s try for one more… SURPRISE! You get TWO!!” I think you explained it perfectly: that newborn phase was such a blur, and we couldn’t enjoy it as much because the sleep deprivation and the stress! I really have a hard time remembering much about the girls’ first few months because I was sooooooooooo exhausted.

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