8 Self-Care Ideas for Super Stressed-Out Moms

I am so excited to tell you that today we have a guest poster, Erin, from Stay at Home Yogi. Erin has been one of my very best blogging friends for about a year now. You can even find one of my posts (How Yoga Makes Me a More Blissful Mom) on her site. Today Erin is talking about something all moms could use a little more of: self-care! We all need a little more me time, and we almost always feel guilty about it (even though we shouldn’t!). But Erin has some amazing and simple self-care ideas for every mom. Take care of yourselves, mommas, so you don’t reach the end of your rope! Thanks for joining us today, Erin!

All moms need more self-care. These 8 amazing self-care ideas will take you from stressed to calm, and they're so easy to do! A must-read for every mom.

Raise your hand if you are a super stressed-out mom! I’m right there with you. From the sleepless newborn phase to the terrible twos to packing endless school lunches, moms don’t ever seem to get a break! And when we get so busy caring for our families, we tend to stop taking care of ourselves. Self-care is so important though, especially in times of stress.

If you are feeling beyond frazzled, hang in there mama, and try one of these eight simple self-care ideas.

8 Self-Care Ideas for Super Stressed Out Moms


Take a few long, deep breaths. Even if there is chaos all around you, you should instantly feel a little more relaxed. Sounds too simple, right? Go on … give it a try.

Prioritize Health

Take care of your health in small ways. Drink a big glass of water. Take your vitamins. Walk for 10 minutes to get some exercise (even if it’s just taking a lap around your own living room!). Remind yourself as you are doing these small actions – I’m doing this because I matter. I’m doing this because I love myself. There is always time to take good care of me. 

Cut Back on Caffeine

Wait! Hear me out! πŸ™‚ As a sleep deprived mom I definitely rely heavily on my beloved coffee. But be aware of how much you are consuming, especially during extra stressful times in your life. More coffee is not always the answer. It can increase your anxiety, make your feel jittery, and prevent you from getting a good night’s sleep if you overdo it. Know yourself and your own limits as caffeine affects everyone differently.

Take a Hot Shower

After more than three years of mom’ing I have learned to prioritize daily showers. I just feel better when I take them. And I don’t just make sure I take them, I milk them for all they are worth! Especially when my kids are sleeping, or someone else is available to watch them, I take the longest showers possible. It is the one time a day I feel truly relaxed. It’s also a great way to hit the reset button at the end of a particularly trying day. I literally wash the stress away, and am ready to do it all over again!

Choose Convenience

When life is really stressful, we tend to be stubborn and keep pushing forward (or is that just me?). We insist on juggling everything – all. the. time. Give yourself a break, and add some guilt free convenience to your life. Where could you take a short cut? Stop sorting the laundry this week and dump it all in one load on the cold cycle. Pick up some pre-made or frozen food items at the grocery store and take a rest from meal prep and cooking for a day or so.

Keep the Kids Busy

What activity or location are your kids absolutely nuts for? Could they play endlessly at the park? Do they love sandboxes, play doh, or painting? Sometimes it seems more stressful to get the kids ready and take them out of the house, or to set up a messy activity, so I don’t. But think of it this way – if they are engrossed in an activity they love, you might have a few quiet moments to yourself. Sure, you’re not alone at a spa, but a few moments to yourself on a park bench might be just what you need to re-charge.

Calm Down

“Calm down!” My three year old has started saying this to me when he notices I’m stressed to the max. I wonder where he heard it? πŸ™‚ What calms you down? Yoga? Adult coloring books? Meditation? Listening to music? Whatever works for you, find a way to work it into your daily routine.

Ask for Help

Something all moms need to do more often – ask for help! Ask your mother, your spouse, your best friend, your neighbors, whoever! Even if it’s just to hold the baby while you run the vacuum for the first time in weeks, or play with your toddler so you can take that relaxing shower I mentioned above! Don’t for one second feel guilty or that you are a failure as a mother. We all need the help. A few minutes or a few hours could really help you feel some relief and turn things around.

If you came to this post feeling exhausted and at the end of your rope – big hugs to you mama! Please know that this is just a bad moment or a bad day. You have plenty of wonderful days ahead! Try some of the stress relievers above and hang in there!

What’s your favorite self-care habit? Tell us below in the comments!

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  1. What do you mean, “cut back on caffeine!?!!!?” Just kidding – I totally get it, and you’re right!! These are all great tips, thanks for sharing!!

  2. It’s been such a busy year and stopping and taking a few breathes has helped me a ton. And you can’t underestimate the power of a hot shower. Thanks for sharing.

  3. The “choose convenience” is a hard one for me. I feel as if I have to be “everything homemade supermom” all the time. Cutting back and taking it easy is much better for my stress level though.
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    • I can totally understand, Ali! If choosing convenience causes you more stress than it helps, keep doing what works for you. πŸ™‚

  4. Taking a hot shower has always been a way for me to decompress after a long day with my son! Great tips and easy to apply now.

  5. No! Don’t take my coffee. I know you’re right though, I just chugged a mug and I wonder how I’m going to get to sleep in a couple of hours!

    • Lol! I had that same thought at first, which is why it’s important to know your caffeine limits. I can do okay with two cups of coffee, but much more than that and it turns into a horrible cycle that ends in no sleep and more coffee. πŸ™‚

  6. Caffeine totally increases my anxiety. Great post!!

    Jenny / thesensibleshopaholic.com

  7. Asking for help is so vital, and I’m so bad at it. Love the hot shower point. Oh yes that helps reduce stress a lot!
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  8. These are all fabulous tips. I have 5 kids and just recently have I discovered that asking for help doesn’t make me insufficient. It maks me a better mama. Thanks for sharing!
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    • You are so right! I always hate asking for help because I feel like I’m imposing, but it really brings a lot more peace for everyone.

  9. Taking care of yourself is always the hardest for some of us. Im not a fan of coffee so that one is super easy for me lol. I do need to learn to tell people no and give myself some “me” time. Nicely written and some great tips!

  10. haha the watch caffeine tip is so true… I hate to admit that I am constantly drinking coffee or energy drinks… and you are right… it just leads to anxiety and no sleep

    • Exactly, Mary. And then you need more caffeine to keep you going from no sleep, then you get even less sleep… it’s a vicious cycle! πŸ™‚

  11. These are very important tips. If our kids see us taking charge of our health they will see how important it really is.

    • That’s such a good point, Mihaela! That’s why I love working out when my kids are around. It makes things more complicated, but they’re learning at an early age how important it is to take care of yourself.

  12. I really needed to read this! I have been so stressed out lately, always feeling like there is not enough time in the day between work, kids homework, and everything else my teens require from me lol.
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    • I hope this helps, Bridget! It might be hard for you to simplify things and cut back because what you’re doing is for your teens, but hopefully you’ll find a way to decompress. Good luck!

  13. While im not yet a mama myself I’m sure I could still implement many of these tips!

  14. Cut back on caffeine?? I’ve got for kids under four. My veins probably pump more caffeine than blood at this point…. πŸ˜‰ I see what you’re saying though.

  15. Ask for help! Such a good one. There are so many options here that do not cost money. Resources that people do not tap into enough! Thanks for this post.

  16. Makes perfect sense! So important to take better care of ourselves as mothers

  17. When I am super stressed I pass all the kids off to my hubby after dinner and relax in the whirlpool tub with a good book. With the jets on i can’t any yelling or fighting.
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  18. I think that these are some really good tips! I need to try and cut back my caffeine, I do notice myself getting jittery sometimes.

    My mom comes once a week to help with our 3 boys. Usually she pick our oldest up from school and then stays with the other 2 so that I can take our 3 year old evening class.

  19. Asking for help is so important! And a hot shower can do wonders! Thanks for this post.
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  20. Erin and Samantha, good tips. I had to laugh about the 3YO telling Mom to “Calm down!” I hope before he’s old enough to get out into the world Mom will teach him those are fightin’ words in many situations! πŸ˜€ I was just remarking on that the other day when we were watching a TV show and the guy says to the woman in distress “Calm down” (uh oh, I said) and then looked surprised that she went nuts!
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  21. This post made me tear up, you described me perfectly. I have a 2 year old and a baby and I can’t catch up. I feel like such a failure for not being able to handle it. I’m not getting any sleep and I’m not taking care of myself. My attitude has been really angry lately and I can’t figure out how to snap out of it.

    I always think of going to the park as work but maybe I’m thinking about it wrong, maybe I could enjoy sitting on a park bench relaxing while my kid runs around. And maybe frozen pizza for dinner once a week wouldn’t be the worst thing. I think I’m going to start trying to shower everyday, when I was in college I would shower multiple times a day, it was very helpful for de-stressing back then but I felt like I had more time back then.

    I didn’t know what I was getting myself into having 2 so close together. I love them so much they are the sweetest little kids. I just can’t believe how hard it is having 2 little people depend on me constantly for everything. It gets better eventually right?

    • Abigail, you are not a failure. It is so hard to raise the tiny humans. They need so much of your time and attention, and it’s only natural that you let things for yourself slide. Every mother does. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with frozen pizza! πŸ™‚ That’s one of my kids’ favorite dinners (“forget the healthy home-cooked food, mom, we want PIZZA!”). It does get easier as they get older. My oldest child is four, and things have gotten so much easier as he gets older. Hang in there, momma, you’re doing amazing!

  22. do you know Im always surprised at how much better i feel after a shower. such a small thing. thank you from this stressed out mam!

  23. Funny how I used to shower every morning and now they seem like an indulgence!
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