Simple Ways to Show Your Husband Appreciation

In daily life with kids, it's easy for your spouse to slip a little in your priorities. These are simple things you can do to show your husband appreciation.

In daily life with kids, it's easy for your spouse to slip a little in your priorities. These are simple things you can do to show your husband appreciation.

I married an amazing man. He works hard to support our family, he makes me laugh, and he’s an incredible father to our children. Sadly though, he doesn’t always get the full attention he deserves. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day life. We stay focused on the kids’ schedules and routines, and unfortunately, the spouse slips a little in the ranking of priorities. He’s an adult; he can take care of himself. These children, however, are very vocal about needing all of my attention at every given moment. You know what I’m talking about. So these are just a few simple ways to show your husband appreciation.

Cook his favorite meal.

Our dinners lately have been anything I can throw in the slow cooker or whatever goes from the stove to the table quickest. Evenings are one of the most hectic times of the day. But this weekend I’m going to spend a little extra time in the kitchen and cook one of his favorites. It’s been a long week; he’s worked some late nights.

Bring the guy a drink.

If I’m getting up and walking through the kitchen, I will grab something out of the fridge and take it back with me. When I go to the grocery store I’ll grab a six-pack of his favorite beer. It doesn’t have to be alcohol; it can be water, tea, coffee, anything. It’s just a simple gesture that shows you’re paying attention to his needs as well. The really nice part is that he returns the favor.

Let him sleep in every once in a while.

Before we had the girls we used to have a weekend ritual: he’d sleep in on Saturdays and I’d get up with the Monster, and we’d swap duties on Sunday so I could sleep in. Now with three kids morning are a little overwhelming. (It’s the other most hectic time of day.) But every once in a while I try to sneak out of the bedroom with the dogs and the baby monitors. Sleeping in is not something that happens very often around here, but I can tell by his face when he needs a little extra sleep.

Smile when he comes home.

Sometimes this one is hard for me. I’ve been home all day with teething babies that don’t want to nap and a preschooler whose favorite sound is his whine.  But what my husband sees when he walks in the door sets the tone for the whole night. If I can muster up a smile and tell him I’m so happy to see him (which I am!), then we’re on our way to a much better evening than if I were to immediately start ranting and raving.


Hold his hand. Cuddle on the couch. Give him a wink. Send a sexy text. Let him know during the day that you’re thinking of him. Sneak a kiss in the hallway when the kids aren’t looking. Tell him after all these years you still find him very desirable. And if all that leads somewhere else, fantastic!

Take part in some of his interests.

Is there a hobby or activity that he loves? Learn about it with him. For Hubs, it’s scotch. He’s very passionate about it, so I’ve started appreciating it as well. For others it could be sports. I love watching the MotoGP and Formula 1 races with him on Sundays. However, it’s a good idea to have some knowledge of the sport so he doesn’t miss everything trying to explain it to you (Hub’s advice there).

Say “thank you.”

The single most important way you can let your spouse know you appreciate him is to say “thank you.” I never want my husband to think I take anything for granted in our life. I can’t express to him how grateful I am that he works so hard to support us so that I can stay home with our children. But I try to tell him thank you all the time, and I mean it.

Yes, I realize that some of these ideas may seem a little 1950’s housewife-ish, and they might be. Mainly though, they are just little acts of love so that he knows he’s still my #1.

Can you relate to this? Does your hubs slip a little on the priority list sometimes? What’s your favorite way to show your spouse you appreciate him? Tell me below in the comments!

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  1. I love this! I think flirting is awesome. Sneaking a quick kiss or squeezing us hand in passing lets him know that even though the kids need attention right now, I want to give him some too. We have a regular babysitter who comes every other Friday so we make sure to get alone time. One day maybe we can afford to go out every week, but I really look forward to our date nights.

  2. Please don’t tell my husband I missed spouse appreciation day! 😉
    Sleeping in and taking part in his interests are great ideas! They work very well in our household! My husband especially loves when I play video games with him.
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  3. This is so great! It’s not about receiving all the time! Our wonderful husbands need attention too!
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  4. The little things really do go a long way. And it’s easy to neglect the hubby when you have kids to chase, work to do, and so much “life” happening. Great tips!

    • Thank you, Jamie! But seriously, he can feed himself, bathe himself, and take care of his own basic needs. It’s too easy to neglect him, so I’m trying to stay mindful about taking better care of him, too.

  5. Yes! Good everyday ideas we can all do easily to show appreciation and respect. Sleeping in is definitely big for my husband who gets up earlier than all of us almost every day. I also try to remember to ask him if there’s anything I can do to help him in the evenings before I get into my list.

    • I’m pretty sure that once you have kids, the ability to sleep in becomes more valuable than gold. I have pretty much given up on it, but I try to make sure he gets some rest every once in a while. I love that you ask your hubs what he needs. That’s a great idea!

  6. These are wonderful tips. I find that appreciating my husband can be difficult when we are both so tired and want a break. Sometimes it’s hard to see past our own needs and we forget how hard they are working too. Thank you for the reminder. I’m going to take the kids to school tomorrow (on his day) and let him sleep in. So glad you shared this at #100HappyDays!
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  7. These are great suggestions. Sometimes I think husbands get the short end of the stick when it comes to attention. I know I’m guilty of it. I try to make my husband feel special. However, I’m sure I could do a better job.
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  8. Wow Samantha, those things would win any man over. Men love to see a smiling face and cooking is great.
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  9. This is sweet 🙂 it is definitely hard to give the hubs a lot of attention when babies demand so much of us.

  10. This is definitely something I need to work on, and I completely agree with Healing Mama that hubbys tend to get the short end of the stick when it comes to appreciation. I just tried to offer to get him a drink while I was up and he nonchalantly said “no, you don’t need to bring me my drinks”. Seriously love this man, but let me take care of you!!! He will always take me up on sleeping in though 😉
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  11. Love this post! It’s so true – after children, the spouse ranking falls dramatically and it’s easy to get too wrapped up in daily life and tasks. I love the smile part! I need to get better at that myself.
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  12. This is really great advice. Especially the one about smiling when he gets home at the end of the day. That is really hard for me most of the time, but I know it would make a huge difference to him.
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  13. LOVE THIS! I needed this reminder. The same way I like to be told my outfit looks pretty , he needs that too and flirting- yes, that is so true! This is a fun and simple list! Thanks !
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  14. I’ve been married almost 8 years and I’m pregnant with our first…I am so surprised how quickly the flirting leaves couples even when kids aren’t in the picture. It’s so important to remain playful.
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    • I completely agree, Catherine. I think some people get lazy or too content maybe once they’re married. But it’s always important to put forth some effort no matter your circumstances. Congrats on the new baby!

  15. Sometimes it’s easy to get comfortable. This post is great

  16. Thanks for sharing this post with us at 100 Happy Days! This is such a great list. I especially like “say thank you.” Those words hold so much weight when you say them with meaning!
    P.S. I love the name of your blog. How stinkin’ cute! 😉
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    • Thank you, Alison! Saying thank you seems like an obvious (or even reflexive) gesture, but it really does mean so much more when you say it with meaning.

  17. Thanks for sharing!!!! Isn’t it amazing how we can do such small things to make your husband so much happier! Thank you so much for visiting us at 100 Happy Days.

  18. This is such a great list! I love the reminder to bring him a drink. It really does go a long way, even if it’s just refilling his water!
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    • Thanks! And this might sound silly, but the more often I do it, the more often he returns the favor. We end up taking turns. 🙂

  19. Hi Samantha! I am new to your blog. I found you through the 100 Happy Days linkup. And I’m so glad I did! Yes, I can use a little laughter in my life. I love to laugh and love blogs that are light hearted. I will be sticking around here for a while: I subscribed to your blog!

    I so appreciate your post. My favorite point (though they all are awesome) is saying thank you and not taking hubby for granted. I’m going to share your post on Welcome Home Ministry’s Facebook page this week. Feel free to hop over and “like” my page for to see it live.

    Blessings to you!

    • Thank you so much, Tiffiney! That’s really sweet of you. Welcome to Momma Wants Java! I’m glad you found me. And I agree with you – my favorite way is to tell him thank you. He works so hard and since he’s not here all day like I am, he misses some of the major milestones with the kids. I’m so lucky that I get to be here for that.

  20. I love these ideas! Especially the smiling when he gets home. Something I never thought much about, but its so true! I *think* I do but I can’t be sure. I’ll be intentional about it now. 🙂
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    • Thank you, Rachel! Most days I’m pretty good at the smiling thing, but I know there are days when that’s not quite the case. Being mindful of it definitely helps though.

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