I married an amazing man. He works hard to support our family, he makes me laugh, and he’s an incredible father to our children. Sadly though, he doesn’t always get the full attention he deserves. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day life. We stay focused on the kids’ schedules and routines, and unfortunately, the spouse slips a little in the ranking of priorities. He’s an adult; he can take care of himself. These children, however, are very vocal about needing all of my attention at every given moment. You know what I’m talking about. So these are just a few simple ways to show your husband appreciation.
Cook his favorite meal.
Our dinners lately have been anything I can throw in the slow cooker or whatever goes from the stove to the table quickest. Evenings are one of the most hectic times of the day. But this weekend I’m going to spend a little extra time in the kitchen and cook one of his favorites. It’s been a long week; he’s worked some late nights.
Bring the guy a drink.
If I’m getting up and walking through the kitchen, I will grab something out of the fridge and take it back with me. When I go to the grocery store I’ll grab a six-pack of his favorite beer. It doesn’t have to be alcohol; it can be water, tea, coffee, anything. It’s just a simple gesture that shows you’re paying attention to his needs as well. The really nice part is that he returns the favor.
Let him sleep in every once in a while.
Before we had the girls we used to have a weekend ritual: he’d sleep in on Saturdays and I’d get up with the Monster, and we’d swap duties on Sunday so I could sleep in. Now with three kids morning are a little overwhelming. (It’s the other most hectic time of day.) But every once in a while I try to sneak out of the bedroom with the dogs and the baby monitors. Sleeping in is not something that happens very often around here, but I can tell by his face when he needs a little extra sleep.
Smile when he comes home.
Sometimes this one is hard for me. I’ve been home all day with teething babies that don’t want to nap and a preschooler whose favorite sound is his whine. But what my husband sees when he walks in the door sets the tone for the whole night. If I can muster up a smile and tell him I’m so happy to see him (which I am!), then we’re on our way to a much better evening than if I were to immediately start ranting and raving.
Hold his hand. Cuddle on the couch. Give him a wink. Send a sexy text. Let him know during the day that you’re thinking of him. Sneak a kiss in the hallway when the kids aren’t looking. Tell him after all these years you still find him very desirable. And if all that leads somewhere else, fantastic!
Take part in some of his interests.
Is there a hobby or activity that he loves? Learn about it with him. For Hubs, it’s scotch. He’s very passionate about it, so I’ve started appreciating it as well. For others it could be sports. I love watching the MotoGP and Formula 1 races with him on Sundays. However, it’s a good idea to have some knowledge of the sport so he doesn’t miss everything trying to explain it to you (Hub’s advice there).
Say “thank you.”
The single most important way you can let your spouse know you appreciate him is to say “thank you.” I never want my husband to think I take anything for granted in our life. I can’t express to him how grateful I am that he works so hard to support us so that I can stay home with our children. But I try to tell him thank you all the time, and I mean it.
Yes, I realize that some of these ideas may seem a little 1950’s housewife-ish, and they might be. Mainly though, they are just little acts of love so that he knows he’s still my #1.
Can you relate to this? Does your hubs slip a little on the priority list sometimes? What’s your favorite way to show your spouse you appreciate him? Tell me below in the comments!